Forgiveness is not easy. At times it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.
Everyone makes mistakes. If you can’t forgive others, don’t expect others to forgive you. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying the heart. Mistakes always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.
When you forgive, you do not erase the memory. You simply choose to forgive to free yourself from the bitterness. The memory stays, not to be forgotten but to be remembered as a valuable lesson.
Letting go is a different story… For sure, is not easy. Before you can let go of grudges and bitterness. First, you must learn how to forgive yourself. When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to that anger, resentments and thoughts of revenge. Then, you will begin to heal when you let go of past hurts, forgive those who have wronged you and learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Second, embrace forgiveness. Embrace all the pain and forgive every mistake you have learned. Third, sometimes it is good to stop trying hard; but instead, seek positive revenge by living well. This isn’t giving up. This is letting go. Let go of what’s killing us and all the negative vibes.
We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on, be happy and free.
There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
People may say you’re not worth it or you don’t deserve something you didn’t ask for. But I know in my heart that I am capable and ready of this—forgiving you and letting you go.
“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.”
-Henry David Thoreau
I don’t want spending every single day thinking of all the possible reasons to hate you just to make myself believe that I’m okay. I want to be okay, but it doesn’t mean I have to bring you down just to lift my spirits up. I want to be alright, be happy, be a whole and contented with where I am and what I have now. I want to be the best version of myself. I want to regain the pieces of myself that I lost when I loved you too much. I want to be myself again.
I am forgiving you because I want to let you go.
We hurt each other and didn’t do anything good. We were in toxic friendship and relationship that I fought to keep but we soon realized it wasn’t worth it. I’m letting you go and forgiving you for all the things you’ve done. And I’m forgiving myself for breaking the promise I told myself that I wouldn’t get hurt by the same person who broke me. I’m forgiving you because you need to be free. Free of obligation, worry and pain. And I do too. We both deserve to be happy, happier apart.
It takes a lot of courage to forgive but it takes a lot more to ask for forgiveness. And I’m asking you now to forgive me for being too late. To forgive me for asking too much. To forgive me for not being enough. Forgive me all believing that it was all real.
I’m forgiving you because I love you and mainly because I love myself more. I want to be free of the toxic thoughts of you and the times that we were in pain. I want to be free of the hatred and distrust. I want to start over and get over you. I want to restart. I want to let go, move on and live on my life.
I’m forgiving you because we both deserve peace. I’m letting you go because it is the right thing to do.
Life doesn’t stop when you run out of the reasons to go on, it continues once you start finding reasons to look forward to. And I have found those reasons.
I’m forgiving you not because I still love you, but because I’ve realized that I should love myself more.
“Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities… always see them… for they’re always there.”
-Norman Vincent Peale