Ah, New Year’s Eve. The evening when everyone is busy making delicious food and stocking champagne or wine bottles. The evening of little miracles. Take away a dazzling fireworks, the celebration, the drinking and the countdowns. The evening of emotional events and stories of love, hope, forgiveness and second chances.
Small human hope. The hope of better days, of fresh starts, and perhaps, if you are very lucky, a kiss. But it also has an ugly side. For some of us, it is the time of the year when all of our fears and doubts converge with the enormous weight of the world and all of the pressure becomes too much. It is the time of the year we can begin to feel obliged to make a big dramatic resolutions and implement significant change in our lives.
What is New Year’s Resolution anyway?..
A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person makes a promise to do an act of self-improvement or something slightly nice, such as opening doors for people beginning from New Year’s Day.
“The best years of your life are the one in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
As for me, why do we do this every year to make a new resolution? Why can’t we make a new resolution every day? Why do we have to wait for a year instead we can make a difference tomorrow?
But why? Why should we mark every single day in our calendars to commit ourselves to ventures promise to make us happier or healthier? Shouldn’t these be goals we pursue all year round? And furthermore, are these kinds of once-off commitments genuinely helpful?
Every year, you make the same promises, and every year fail miserably. So, this New Year, why not try a whole new approach?
For me, I don’t believe any of us should stress so much about making up our minds and settling on a path of a coming New Year’s or direction for 2016. The division of time into years is a human invention, and fact is, every minute of every day is a brand new opportunity for resolution and growth. It’s time to focus on the outcome you want to see this year. Start by writing a legendary story as if it were a movie script. Then spend time thinking why you really want this new life. What will life be like when you accomplish these goals and changes? And last, but not least, who (beside yourself) will hold you accountable to the outcomes you really want to achieve?
Real, genuine change or accomplishment can rarely trace its origins back to single decision, rather it comes about organically and over time, slow gathering strength through a sustained and conscious effort, and by remaining motivated and true to your cause. There is no need to cheapen your hopes and dreams by reducing them to half-hearted, one line slogans you will quickly forget. Instead, understand that there is nothing to be frightened of. That this coming year, like any other, will arrive a single day at a time, and any challenges you may face can be overcome in small manageable chunks. That you may fail, time and time again, but there will always be another opportunity in tomorrow to make amends, to get back up on your feet and try again. Recognize that it’s not the resolutions you make once a year that matter, but the ones you make with every single breath.
If you’re serious about the changes you want to make in your life, take this approach. Not only will it work, but you’ll find you never want to go back to the days of annual measurement of highly unrealistic goals that you “should” do, but know deep down that you never will. Achievers envision entirely new possibilities, get deep with the reasons this new reality is a MUST for them, and find someone they trust to hold themselves accountable. I’d wish you luck, but you don’t need luck when you do these three things instead. After all, it’s grit (not grind) that makes the difference and determines your success.
“Luck? I don’t know anything about luck. Iv’e never banked on it and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: Hard work- and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.”
So, when the clock strikes twelve, the glasses are clinked, and the fireworks fly to mark the close of 2015, relax—think back on all you have achieved over the course of the past year, and take a moment to enjoy the company of your loved ones. Take it easy, and celebrate for a moment, the rest will come to you. 🙂